Tristan de Montebello

Public speaking is a subconscious meta-skill that requires debugging existing mental software rather than adding more conscious frameworks to manage.

"The day I understood that speaking was a subconscious flow-oriented process and not a conscious process, completely changed the way I approached it. So instead of thinking tactics and frameworks and a..."

Looking up when you need a moment to think projects confidence and thoughtfulness, whereas looking down signals uncertainty.

"If instead you switch that up and you start thinking up. I think up into the right, but you can think in any direction you want, but as long as you're looking up, you actually look thoughtful by defau..."

To build real speaking resilience, use game-based practice that provides immediate rewards and builds the skills to handle pressure.

"Well, your practice has to be enjoyable as well because otherwise two weeks in, you're going to quit just like a shitty fitness journey or diet. Right? You have to find joy in it and it has to be stru..."

Effective communication requires speaking with the same natural ease and authenticity you use in everyday conversation.

"People tend to get into a public speaking voice. We'll be in a class and they'll be chatting normally and look super normal. And then we'll say, "Okay, now just a timer, I'm just going to give you a s..."

Eliminating filler words is not about counting them, but about becoming comfortable with silence and slowing down under pressure.

"The root cause of having lots of filler words or racing in your speaking, is that you probably struggle to feel comfortable slowing down, relaxing, or even pausing when your mind is racing and you fee..."